FOREWORD

One day, while waiting for a friend, I realized I wasn’t breathing. I was just learning how to live on my own after 25 years of marriage and helping my only child, a daughter named Zoe, fight cancer two times. It felt like the air had been knocked out of me. I tipped my head back and took a full breath. Above me was a deep blue sky, with white clouds that felt close enough to touch. That moment stayed.

It became a way through — a pause when everything felt tight, a breath when my thoughts were moving too fast. Looking up didn’t solve anything, but it made space.

forward

I had always taken pictures.

It started early — a family camera on vacations, still frames and home movies of places we were passing through. In high school it became a craft: the newspaper, assignments with deadlines, a darkroom where images surfaced slowly in the tray, and a few small moments of recognition that told me I was seeing something worth keeping.

One summer in San Francisco, studying in the city I would much later call home, the camera came with me everywhere.

It was there on my honeymoon in Thailand. It was there — now digital, now video — when Zoe was born. When she learned to ski, I mounted a camera on my own helmet and filmed her runs — watching the mountain unfold around her, fast and wide open.

Then the ski trips changed. In British Columbia, what we were told was optic neuritis. In Aspen, it looked like MS, ALS, Parkinson’s — motor skills degrading before our eyes, in real time — but the doctors there called it vertigo. The mountains were where her cancer first announced itself, disguised, one trip at a time. The camera kept rolling because it was what I knew how to do — but the habit faded when life demanded everything else, the way it always had. And it reappeared, the way it always did, when things got hard.

When my marriage ended, I couldn’t breathe. That was the season the sky found me. When Zoe’s cancer returned, I had new tools to help our family rid her of this disease.

A year before Zoe’s third bout, I met Heather — an epidemiologist before most people knew the term. She gave me medical guidance and something rarer: confidence. She read the treatment papers, pushed for the second opinion, and helped lead me to Dr. Alison Moskowitz at Memorial Sloan Kettering — a joint venture with Heather’s alma mater, Cornell University. When Zoe needed me, I showed up — and this time, I showed up prepared.

Zoe has been cancer free for nine years as this book is being published.

I spent twenty years building a career I thought would carry me forward. When I moved to San Francisco, I knew it might not last. What I didn’t expect was how much else would shift at the same time. The job ended. The habit did not. Eleven years ago I leaned into photography harder than I ever had, and the hard lean continues to this day.

The camera came with me. I began photographing San Francisco the way I had once photographed the sky — nothing dramatic, just what was there. Fog, hills, water, light. Those pictures are forming my next book, I Really Did Leave My Heart in Ess Eff.

Our relationship, Zoe’s and mine, wasn’t easy. There were moments of connection, and others of distance. But even in the hardest stretches, something was taking shape — something that changed how I see my life, and what matters.

In the months that followed, I began to slow down. The camera had done its part; now the writing began. On long, unhurried walks, I started to make sense of what I had been carrying — what had stayed with me, and what I needed to let go.

Sharing these reflections with others brought a different kind of connection — and a different kind of healing. This book comes from that time.

It is not a story about having answers, but about learning to pause, to look up, and to stay present.

If it offers anything, I hope it is this: a reminder to breathe, to notice what’s around you, and to find your way — one moment at a time.

Zoe means spiritual life in the Greek language. It was the only name my ex-wife and I could agree on.

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